I can well remember having to choose a first school for my son and always in my mind was the fact that I hated that part of my own life with my school being very strong on discipline and being virtually scared of the teachers (inner London with concrete playgounds and late 1940's to boot) so we were recommended a small school where the head was heavily into all things nature.
He kept control, but he had a wonderful relationship with the kids and this helped by way of the large vacant, sloping field adjacent to the school where he and parents built a small stream and various barns to house all sorts of wildlife, including ponies, horses, duck, geese and a myriad of other creatures.
His clever plan was to have the kids 'look after' the animals etc. (sort of adopt, if you will)during playtime and outside school hours and this they did with loads of them arriving at school well before start time. The kids loved it and my son learnt how to deal with animals and be at one with nature.......He has never forgotten the experience.
Yes, they were controlled and taught well, but it was the 'big field' experience he passed onto them, and I think they loved him for it. All I ever heard from my son was, Mr X said this and Mr X said that - he could almost walk on water!
All of this influenced our choice of school as he moved through his young years, with the desire for him to be happy in his work, absolutely paramount. It cost a fortune but we could only find an independent school that suited this requirement and he loved it from day one. Hard work combined with sports, plus having teachers who respected the kids instead of brow beating them made it a memorable experience for him.
He went back many times well into his twenty's to see the teachers and the Head, even being asked to address the morning assembly to tell of his life experiences......Some of the best days of his life he tells me, all too often!
Did he reach his full potential - Oh yes he did!!
For my money it's all about working with kids and not 'fighting' them, to respect their opinions and listening to what they have to say. Doesn't always work, but it's a good way forward IMHO....................
ps He spent many nights and days with me on the bank fishing, as he saw it as some sort of adventure. He bought a friend occasionally and they had a great time fishing from our punt for tench and crucians. He never did take up the sport, preferring rugby, skiing et al to just sitting by lake or stream..........